I am Wim
Intimacy is my language
Transformation is my work
My mission is to guide you toward deep connection — with yourself and with your loved ones.
I help people like you who are facing challenges in their intimate relationships. Through deep bodywork, transformative constellations, workshops, and more, I reveal the path to deeper connection and a loving, fulfilling relationship.
This is how I aim to reunite the masculine and the feminine.
The masculine is often associated with action, strength, purpose, and protection, while the feminine represents intuition, softness, connection, and creativity. These energies are seen as complementary and ideally should be balanced for inner wholeness. Somewhere in the world — in society or in individual lives — an imbalance has arisen between these two energies. Restoring this balance fosters harmony and well-being.
My Journey to Conscious Sexuality
Grateful for the Challenges on My Path
Hello beautiful soul, I’m glad you’re here to discover more about me.
For me, sexuality represents the creative force of all life — what has been brought to life, what is being brought to life, and what will continue to come into being. My life journey has led me through many challenges, shaping me into the person I am today. I am deeply grateful for this journey, no matter how long or rocky it has been. Every obstacle I’ve overcome, every experience I’ve gained, and every difficulty I’ve endured has contributed to who I am. The same goes for all my moments of success, encounters, and beautiful experiences along the way.
A Complex Relationship with Sexuality
An Unexplained Fear
As a child, I already had a complex relationship with sexuality — a kind of “love-hate” dynamic. I felt strongly drawn to everything related to sexuality, yet something always held me back from fully enjoying it. After countless breakups and relationship struggles, I began searching for what might be “wrong” with me. I started reading books, doing personal work, taking courses, attending workshops, and participating in trainings. I began to see the world in a very different way.
Still, something didn’t quite fit. I realized that in my relationships with women, there was something deeper I didn’t fully understand. As a young man, I had been shy, but later I recognized that there was fear toward women within me. The question remained: where did this fear come from?
The Turning Point
An Intense Process of Awareness
I discovered the answer in 2017, when I was confronted with the sexual abuse I had experienced in my childhood — a trauma I had buried from my awareness for about forty years. This marked a turning point in my life, exposing a profound lie I had carried. Shortly after, all the pieces of the puzzle fell into place.
Thanks to the preparatory work I had done in personal awareness — through courses and trainings — I had developed the resilience to face it. The process was intense and emotional, yet incredibly valuable. I gained insight into the choices I had made in my life, the partners I had attracted, and my relationship with sexuality.
The Importance of Finding the Right Support
Connecting with My Pure Sexuality
After a year of processing and therapy, I was able to make sense of many things and better understand the triggers connected to the abuse. I finally connected with my “pure sexuality.”With my experience in bodywork and guidance, I could respond quickly and effectively.
This connection with my pure sexuality brought greater awareness, freedom, joy, and passion into my life. I could now enjoy sexuality without needing it to lead somewhere. Yet, I discovered something else I hadn’t been aware of: the sexual inhibition present in my partners. From this, I developed skills that allowed women to feel safe enough to open sexually in my presence. This marked the beginning of my passion for guiding people on their journey to their essence and sexuality.
The Value of My Trauma
Presence, Sensitivity, and Safety
I am deeply grateful that I have been able to transform my greatest trauma into something meaningful and valuable. The qualities I developed through that experience — such as true presenceand heightened sensitivity— now allow me to be of service to both men and women who wish to connect with their essence, sexual energy, and life force.
Presence and sensitivityare essential in my guidance around sexuality, creating a safe space where clients can relax and open up. Often, I receive feedback like, “With you, it feels safe to do this.”Integrity, openness, and humor are central to my work. Integrity means honesty and transparency, without avoidance. Openness provides clarity and safety. Humor and the ability to put things into perspective bring lightness to working with sexuality, which many find refreshing.
So, now you know me a little better.
But before you decide to work with me as a therapist, you probably want to know more about my background.
And I completely understand that. That’s why I’ve listed my most relevant experiences below. If you have any questions — about me, sexuality, practical matters, or anything else — don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m here to help, even if that simply means guiding you toward the right source of support.
My Work Experience
What I’ve Done
Founder & Director of Born 2 Be
Relaxatie - Yoga - Meditatie - Relatietherapie
2014-2023
Providing both one-on-one guidance and group workshops in the fields of meditation, relaxation, yoga, family and systemic constellations, and relationships.
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Founder of Het Passiehuis
Coaching – Massage – Reiki Sessions
2012-2014
At Het Passiehuis, I offered coaching, massages, Reiki, and workshops on “emotions vs. feeling”to help others reconnect with themselves on a deeper level.
Founder - wimvandenbergh.com
Relationship Therapy – Constellations – Workshops
2023 – Present
Guidance and support to create a deeper connection with yourself, find your own balance, and from there, live a fulfilling life.
Founder & Director of Buylbergh
B&B / Center for Consciousness Development
2016-2021
In the German Eifel, we offered a peaceful and inspiring retreat center for workshops, surrounded by nature and complemented by healthy, nourishing food.
Founder of Spirri-Wii
Organizing – Expressing – Experiencing
2010-202
“Spirri Wii”was founded to introduce people to various methods of self-awareness through experiential workshops.
Education & Training
The inspiration behind my work and my life
Therapist training “Roads to sexual dignity”
Continuing Education at De Rode Parel (2025)
Alchemy of Bodywork: earth element
Training at Life Projects (2026)
The Alchemy of Creation: The 8 Core Principles
Training at Life Projects (2025)
Alchemy of Bodywork: Fire element
Training at Life Projects (2025)
Alchemy of the Wise Man
Training at Life Projects (2024)
Alchemy of Love
Training at Life Projects (2024)
Alchemy of Creation: The 8 Basic Principles
Training at Life Projects (2023)
Polyvagal theory & practice
2-day refresher burnout Academy (2024)
Alchemy of Bodywork: water element
Training at Life Projects (2022)
Alchemy of the Wise Man
Training at Life Projects (2023)
Ritual Play facilitator
Training Marina Kronkvist (Finland 2022)
Alchemy of Bodywork
Training at Life Projects (2022)
Alchemy of Life
1-year training at Life Projects (2021)
Conscious male sexuality
Training at Erik Decolveneare (2022)
Trauma therapist Practitioner
1-year training at Open Mind (2015)
Trauma therapist Master
1-year training at Open Mind (2016)
Tantra annual trajectory
Annual training at Yatri (2014)
Burnout coach
Training at Open Mind (2015)
Youth coach
Training at Open Mind (2013)
Grief therapist
1-year training at Open Mind (2014)
NLP Master
1-year training at Arcturus (2011)
Family and organizational coach
1-year training at Open Mind (2012)
NLP Practitioner
1-year training at Arcturus (2010)
Holistic massage
Training at Centrum Voelen (2010)
Reiki 1st degree
Training at The Crystal Pyramid (2009)
Reiki 2nd degree
Training at The Crystal Pyramid (2009)
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My Astrology:
Who Am I — What Do I Stand For
In the Light of My Soul and the Stars
I was born early one morning in June 1972, under a gentle Gemini Sun in the mystical 12th house. That says a lot about who I am, both as a human being and as a guide. From a young age, I’ve been drawn to the invisible — the quiet, healing field that exists between words. I guide people not only with knowledge or experience, but with my whole presence: attuned, embodied, and deeply empathetic.
My Moon in Cancer, right on the Ascendant, means that people often feel at home with me within minutes. I’m not a therapist who stands above you. I’m someone who sits beside you, feels you, hears you — even in what you can’t yet put into words. My holding is gentle, yet powerful. And in that gentleness, transformation begins.
In the months and years ahead, I feel a deep calling to shape my soul work with even greater clarity. Saturn is moving through my 10th house — the house of vocation and soul purpose. This calls for fewer compromises and deeper devotion. Not as pressure, but as a sacred commitment to myself and to life.
I’m not here to ‘help a little.’ I’m here to offer a holding for deep transformation — especially around themes of intimacy, sexuality, boundary violations, and inner reconnection. Pluto invites me to descend even deeper into this work, to more fully take my place as a guide in both the darkness and the light.
At the same time, I feel a growing softness. Jupiter is returning to my roots: the sign of Cancer. This gives me permission to be even more visible in my sensitivity. To no longer hide, but to show myself as I truly am — open, warm, vulnerable, and grounded.
⚖️ I live and work from the dance of masculine and feminine energy.
I increasingly embody the balance between structure and surrender, direction and receptivity. My feminine lives in silence, holding, and inner knowing. My masculine offers direction, space, boundaries, and protection. It is precisely in this integration that my work finds its power.
I am not here to fix people.
I am here to walk alongside — sometimes briefly, sometimes for a while.
To bring light into the dark, and to offer a holding for that which longs to be born.
If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got
Welcome
Adres Belgium: Wim Vandenbergh, Donklaan 79/17, 9290 Berlare
BTW BE 0839 951 902
Rekeningnummer:
BE09 3632 3415 0057
